11 May 2008

60 Ways To Keep The Love Of Your Wife, Guaranteed !

By Ahmed Shehab

Ahmed Shehab guarantees in this video lecture that these are some of the ways to keep your wife’s love. A very touching speech and worth listening to.

1. Make her feel secure and sakinah - don’t threaten her with divorce

2. Give sincere salaams

3. Treat her gently - like a fragile vessel

4. Advise in private, at the best time, in the best way and atmosphere

5. Be generous with her

6. Warm the seat for her, you will warm her heart

7. Avoid anger, keep wudu at all times

8. Look good and smell great for your wife

9. Don’t be rigid or harsh-hearted or you will be broken

10. Be a good listener

11. Yes for flattery, No for arguing

12. Call your wife with the best names, cute nicknames, names she loves to hear

13. Utilize pleasant surprises

14. Preserve and guard the tongue

15. Expect, accept, and overlook her shortcomings

16. Give sincere compliments

17. Encourage her to keep good relations with her family

18. Speak about topics that interest her

19. Express to her relatives, how wonderful she is

20. Give each other gifts

21. Get rid of routine, surprise her

22. Have a good opinion of each other

23. Have good manners, overlook small things, don’t nitpick

24. Add a drop of patience, increase drops during pregnancy, menses

25. Expect and respect her jealously

26. Be humble

27. Sacrifice your happiness for hers

28. Help at home and with housework

29. Help her love your relatives, but don’t try to force her

30. Let her know that she is the ideal wife for you

31. Remember your wife in dua

32. Leave the past for Allah subhanahu wa ta ala, don’t dwell on, dig into, or bring it up.

33. Don’t act as if you are doing her a favor by working or providing, Allah is the Provider, the
husband is the carrier of the sustenance to the family

34. Take shaytaan as your enemy, not your wife

35. Put food in your wife’s mouth

36. Treat your wife like she is the most precious pearl that you want to protect

37. Show her your smile

38. Don’t ignore the small things, deal with them before they become big

39. Avoid being harsh-hearted

40. Respect and show that you appreciate her thinking

41. Help her to find and build her inner strengths and skills

42. Respect that she might not be in mood for intimacy, stay within halal boundaries

43. Help her take care of the children

44. Give her gifts with your tongue, be an artist with your compliments

45. Sit down and eat meals together

46. Let her know that you will be traveling or returning from travel, give her sufficient notice

47. Don’t leave home in anger

48. Maintain the secrecy and privacy of the home

49. Encourage each other in ibaadat

50. Respect and fulfill her rights upon you

51. Live with her in kindness, goodness, fairness in good and bad times

52. Kiss your wife, foreplay, “Don’t jump on her like a bull”

53. Keep disputes between the two of you, don’t take it outside

54. Show care for her health and well-being

55. Remember you are not always right or perfect yourself

56. Share your happiness and sadness with her

57. Have mercy for her weaknesses

58. Be a firm support for her to lean on

59. Accept her as is, she is a package deal

60. Have a good intention for her